F.A.Qs

Since we started planning for surrogacy, we have received tremendous amount of support from family, friends, colleagues and those we met online throughout this journey. Often we encounter questions. Some of them are interesting and help us prepare. Some are a bit surprising but are mostly asked in innocent and inquisitive way. Here is the list of FAQs.

1. Why do you want to have kids (even moms asked)? Do you know what you are getting yourselves into?

Answer is here. Surrogacy takes a lot to accomplish. I don't think there will be intended parent(s) out there going through surrogacy without thinking hard what they are getting themselves into. Our lives will change forever for sure. We are very excited about the change and can't wait to have them in our lives.

2. Why don't you just adopt?

We explored adoption but it wasn't for us.

3. Does having kids make you feel normal?

Really? We can't be more normal with or without kids.

4. Who is the father?

We both are the fathers. That's the end of it. :-)

5. Whose sperm did you use?
Bill Gates, Does it really matter? See answer from Q4. 

6. Who/where is the mother?

This question comes up very often. It probably will continue to come up after babies are born. It is clear that our babies have no mother but two fathers who will love them to the moon and back.

7. Are you ready to be parents/daddy/papa?

Not sure if we ever will be ready. Parenting is an ongoing learning process. In short, we are prepared and will be ready as best as we can. That includes books to read, YouTube videos and help from friends and family, twin parenting and newborn care classes to take.

8. Are you going to tell your kids about surrogacy?

Absolutely. We plan to tell them early on with language that they can understand easily and be open about how they come to this world. We are proud of what we have done to complete our family and want them to be proud of it too.

9. How much does it cost?
A lot. :-) Here is the Google search on typical costs associated with gestational surrogacy.

If you have any other question, please feel free to ask!